Miracles Adoption Support Groups

Kristen and Matt's story

Our decision to adopt was an easy one. It may sound crazy but every day that I see my son's face I am grateful that we have had fertility problems. He is far and away the best thing that has ever come into our lives. It also helped that I have a half sister who was adopted by my father when we were very young plus the fact that my sister and her husband adopted a wonderful little girl through the Adoption Support Center before my husband and I even met. That little girl quickly stole my heart and rekindled my desire to have children. All this is not to say that our adoption journey was a smooth one just that the decision to adopt a child was not a difficult one.

Choosing the Adoption Support Center was made very simple for us by my sister and brother-in-law. The treatment that they received when adopting our niece was second to none so it was pretty obvious to us that ASC was the way to go and we have had absolutely no regrets. The ASC staff treats all of their potential birthmothers and adoptive parents with absolute respect, honesty, and care. We find ourselves constantly praising their professionalism to all of our friends and family.

Upon completing our paperwork, we were quickly matched with a beautiful teenaged birthmother. In the weeks leading up to her delivery date we had a couple of meetings with her and felt as if we were bonding with this brave young woman. When she went into labor we were there at the hospital. We stayed overnight through her many hours of labor and during that time came to know her family. They were wonderful, thoughtful , caring people. Once the baby was born and mother and son were doing well we finally went home to get some rest. The next day we were back at the hospital visiting with the birthmother as she let us feed and diaper the baby. We were so excited to finally be given the opportunity to start the family we had been dreaming about.

However life often has other plans in store. The next morning, the morning of the final paper signing, just hours before we were to take this beautiful baby home, his mother changed her mind. We were devastated. We could not fault her for her decision. Having only spent a few hours with child we were already in love and she had already spent 9 months with him.

So, instead of carrying home an adorable baby boy, we spent a few hours in bed crying then we took our dog for a long walk in the woods. We tearfully walked along the trails; still a childless couple. Life went back to the way it had been before we met this birthmother and we continued longing for a family of three.

Then two weeks later, out of the blue, we got a call. A woman had just given birth at a hospital in the area and she had chosen us as adoptive parents to her newborn son. She had delivered the day before we got the call so she would be signing the papers the next day. We were asked to be at the hospital the next day! Wow, how life can turn on a dime! Of course we said we would be there. We spent the next 24 hours trying not to get our hopes up. We didn't even tell our families so that if things fell through everyone wouldn't have to live through the grief again.

Well, we thank the heavens on a daily basis because things did not fall through and our dreams were finally coming true. The very next day everything went as planned and we met our beautiful son for the first time. The feelings of seeing him that first moment were just indescribable happiness. To add to our blessing, we got to know our birthmother and her mother at the hospital over the next two days. Hearing them talk about their lives and family was invaluable to us. We feel so fortunate to have gotten to know them even just for a little while. Everything we learned about them will be precious information to Noah, our son, later in life and we look forward to sharing their stories with him. We've even gotten a letter from his birthmother around his first birthday. We pray that she sends more. It is like no other feeling in the world to know that we have maintained a positive connection with the person who was courageous enough to give us the greatest joy in our lives.

As I proofread this story (months after writing it, mind you), I have tears in my eyes. Tears of happiness of course. I still can't believe how fortunate we were in the whole process. From meeting the wonderful employees at Adoption Support Center to talking to other couples who are contemplating adoption the whole experience couldn't have been better. In fact we are thinking of doing it all again soon!